Category: Relationships Written by \Andrea Syrtash and Jeff Wilser/ Huffington Post Staff
Every time you go on a date, you're faced with 347 "rules" on how to act, what to say, when to call him, when to kiss him and how to play "the game." We're done with that. Dating rules are dead. The rules say that you should Always do this and Never do that, but our take is this: Never trust a rule that begins with "Never," and always question a rule that begins with "Always."
In It's Okay to Sleep with Him on the First Date: and Every Other Rule of Dating, Debunked, we cover the gamut of dating rules -- everything from dating psychology, the first date, social media and dating to sex and monogamous relationships -- and show how The Rules can hurt your chances.
Last Updated on Tuesday, 09 July 2013 13:20
Category: Relationships Written by Huffington Post Staff
It seems that betrayal really is in the eye of the beholder.
A recent HuffPost/YouGov survey of 1,000 U.S. adults found that people's definition of emotional infidelity depends on who's doing the cheating. Sixty percent of respondents said that if their partner developed a deep emotional connection with someone else, it would be considered cheating. Only 18 percent said that it wouldn't be considered cheating.
However, when a separate group of 1,000 adults was asked the reverse -- "Say that you were in a committed relationship and you developed a deep emotional connection with someone other than your partner. Would you consider that to be cheating?" -- the number who said "no" increased to 29 percent of respondents. Fifty percent said "yes," and 21 percent were not sure.
Last Updated on Tuesday, 09 July 2013 13:09
Category: LifeStyle Written by Ashley Tate, CNN
Your kids are (once again) clamoring for the latest iSomething. Meanwhile, you and your spouse are locking horns over whether to buy a bigger TV or a faster PC. Oh, and the AV receiver is on the fritz; that's going to need replacing soon too.
Living in a digital world sure gets expensive.
The average American home has more than twice as many Internet-connected devices as people, the NPD Group reports. And annual household spending on electronics last year was up 36% over 2011, to $1,312, the Consumer Electronics Association says.
Here's how to keep your clan tech-happy without going broke:
Swap home upgrades
You know waiting until a wireless contract is up significantly cuts the cost of a new mobile device. But you might not know that most carriers let you exchange upgrades within a family plan, which is ideal for when your teen cracks his screen or one of you needs a specific new feature (like point-by-point audio navigation). Applying another family member's upgrade -- assuming the person is happy to keep his or her phone -- helps you avoid paying full price.
How it works: You renew the contract and get the phone, but don't activate it, says Dan Ackerman of tech site CNET. Then simply ask the carrier to have the cell connected to another line.
Opt for the next best
While early adopters pay a premium, those who buy older versions are rewarded. The newest iPad sets you back $499, for example, but the earlier one costs $399. Going back two generations on a device saves more, and can make sense if you don't need the latest bells and whistles.
Prefer the current model? Buy it refurbished.
"Refurbished tech products often provide big savings with little compromise," says Rick Broida, who writes for PC World. (A fixed-up version of the newest iPad sells at a 10% discount.)
Devices are quality tested; phones usually get new batteries. Most companies even offer some kind of warranty.
Last Updated on Friday, 05 July 2013 16:26
Category: Relationships Written by Amber Bogins
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Criminologists have long known that men tend to offend less after they marry. But with almost half of all marriages now ending in divorce, what effect does separation have?
Writing in the journal Psychology, Crime & Law, Delphine Theobald and David P. Farrington investigate the links between marriage, separation and male offending, using data from the Cambridge Study in Delinquent Development: a survey that has followed over 400 men born in South London for nearly 50 years.
The effects of separation on patterns of offending are clear: men whose offending reduced when they married increased their offending when that marriage broke down. The authors suggest that coming out of the routine of family life and becoming detached from social institutions may make men feel more vulnerable, give them more time to engage in undesirable behaviour and cause them financial difficulties. In the words of the authors, these men 'no longer have anything to lose'.
In their article, the researchers identify factors that help to predict separation, many of which demonstrate risk-taking or anti-social behaviour or which add to marital stress. Whether their own parents' separation made the men more likely to separate themselves is less clear. Theobald and Farrington suggest that there does appear to be a link, but that many factors come into play, especially how well the men coped with the breakdown and their own parental role models.
Evidence from this study and elsewhere reinforces the importance of good, stable family relationships to help children escape 'negative outcomes' like delinquency, substance abuse and an inability to have good relationships themselves.
The social-policy implications of Theobald and Farrington's study are also clear. They argue that it is essential to teach adolescents, especially those who have experienced family conflict, how to maintain supportive, stable relationships. They also call for more access to family support and counselling agencies, through which conflict resolution, as well as the negative influences of drink, drugs and bad company, should be addressed.
Read the full article online: http://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/1068316X.2011.640635
The effects of marital breakdown on offending: results from a prospective longitudinal survey of males
Psychology, Crime & Law
Delphine Theobald, Institute of Psychiatry, UK and David P. Farrington, University of Cambridge, UK
Last Updated on Tuesday, 09 July 2013 10:40
Category: Parenting Written by Ashley Killough, CNN
Parents often dream about their child's future, but a career in politics seems more like a nightmare to many.
Nearly two-thirds–64%–of Americans would not like their child to pursue a political career, compared to 31% who think that would be a good path, according to a Gallup survey released Friday.
That number has remained relatively consistent since Gallup began asking about sons and daughters in 1993. Those who approved of a career in politics for their child have fluctuated between 61% and 71%.
With the country recovering from a bitter presidential campaign and with the approval ratings of Congress hovering just above 10%, it's no surprise that parents want their children to avoid one of the least-liked professions among Americans.
A Gallup survey released last month showed Congress ranking last among 16 society institutions in terms of confidence levels from the American people. The military placed first, small business came in second, church and organized religion came in third and the presidency came in fourth.
Breaking it down by demographics, nonwhites are much more likely than whites to say they would like to see their child go into politics, according to Gallup. By a margin of 42% to 26%, nonwhites say they'd like their son to have a political career, and 45% to 25% say they'd like their daughter to do the same.
There is little difference between ideologies, though Democrats and independents are slightly more likely than Republicans to want their child to go into politics. Men are also a little bit more likely than women to want their sons and daughters to choose a politically-related career.
Interestingly, the numbers significantly change according to the order of the questions. Americans are much more likely to say they want their daughter or son to go into politics when they're asked about a daughter first. Thirty-seven percent say they'd like to see their daughter go into politics; when followed up with a question about a son going into politics, an equal amount say they would like that kind of future for their son.
However, when Gallup switched up the order and asked about a son first, the number of those wanting to see a son go into politics drops 12 percentage points to 25%. When asked about a daughter next, 26% said they would like their daughter to go into politics–also a sharp decrease.
Thirty-one percent marks the average of both genders when considering the order of the questions. Gallup says the answering trend has been consistent in the past.
"This suggests that Americans may be interpreting the question as one about gender equality when asked about a daughter first, and therefore that makes them more likely to favor a political career for their children of either sex," read a release that came with the poll. "When asked about a son first, Americans may interpret the question as more straightforward one about the desirability of a political career and are less likely to favor it for either a son or daughter in that circumstance."
While Gallup started asking about daughters in 1993, the polling institution has been questioning Americans about sons since 1944. Curiously, the number of those wanting to see their son go into politics has changed little since then, when it stood at 21%. The highest point ever was in 1965, when 36% said they wanted to see their son go into politics. This was a time when "Americans were still rallying around President Johnson after he took office following the death of John F. Kennedy," the release stated.
Gallup surveyed 2,048 American adults by telephone from June 20-24, with a sampling error of plus or minus three percentage points.
Last Updated on Friday, 05 July 2013 16:18
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