Amber L. Bogins is the Digital Entertainment Editor for the Michigan Chronicle and FrontPage Detroit. In addition to keeping up with the latest entertainment news, she also writes local community and business stories. She has worked as a Digital Content Administrator for the Real Times Media Detroit online properties. In addition to her writing responsibilities, she also assists in planning the Michigan Chronicle events. Amber graduated from Grand Valley State University with a Bachelor’s degree in Writing.
Last week, DJ Khaled went on MTV and said, "I'm gonna be honest, I love you, I like you. I want you, I want you to be mine," he said. "I'm at MTV because it's a worldwide network and I'm not telling you this face to face because I understand that you are busy. I'm [gonna] be honest with you, I wanna marry you. Nicki Minaj, will you marry me?" Now no one can confirm Nicki's response to his proposal. She has been spotted wearing an engagement ring...just not Khaled's. So while the world is on pins and needles awaiting her answer, I started thinking about the ideal marriage proposal.
My special someone thought it would be great to start a two-day fight with me before popping the question. It was definitely not ideal for those two days, but the proposal at Campus Martius with the water fountain and lights in the background was amazing.
However, celebrities with more money than what should be legal have their own creative ways to propose.
The Royal Baby Watch is over! Monday, Prince William and Catherine, the Duchess of Cambridge greeted their royal bouncing baby boy. Kate will have at her disposal London's elite nanny squad. I saw a special with Diane Sawyer and the royal nannies are intense! They train for three years to learn how to be the perfect nanny for a royal baby. Their training includes changing cloth diapers, proper burping technique and my personal favorite, driving to avoid the paparazzi.
However, as mother of a two-year-old, the only class I took was Life. Here are few things I learned in my first two years as a mommy.
1. Enjoy the early months. There are a lot of stories about how tired you will be and the midnight feedings. Those are true. But unless your baby isn't feeling well, your baby will take a lot of naps. Ignore the housework, your phone or any other distractions and take a couple naps too.
2. Take advantage of the new baby fever. Your family and friends are probably just as excited about the new baby as you are. Invite someone you trust over every once and while so you can do something for yourself.
3. Target diapers work just as well as Pampers for a fraction of the cost.
4. Keep a camera ready. Babies are always doing something new. Even newborns make funny faces.
5. Relax. Yes, you should handle your baby with care, but they are not china dolls.
6. Everyone has baby advice, but you don't have to take it. Sometimes it's okay to say, "no thank you."
7. Toddlers are reckless and have no concept of injury until they climb on a coffee table and try to walk off. Usually it's nothing a kiss can't fix.
8. Don't be in a hurry to hear your little one say, "Mommy." Once they start they never stop and very rarely are they calling your name for something important.
9. The most important lesson I've learned is to slow down and make time to spend with your little one. It's very easy to get caught up with work, deadlines and public appearances. But little ones don't stay little long so cherish the coos, giggles and cuddles while their too little fend you off.
Now if someone has potty training advice, that would be great.
A Note From The Author
Last Friday, July 12, I blogged about the use of social media for social activism, and it sparked a heated debate between a Facebook friend and myself. A comment was made that it may not be realistic for people to walk off their jobs or abandon their responsibilities to protest. For some, social media is the only outlet they have. I’m not going to point out that Civil Rights protesters did walk off their jobs and were jailed and missed work — sometimes they never came home. However we now live in a digital era. Things change.
It is that conversation and recent events that have led me to write a follow up commentary.
I am not surprised that George Zimmerman got off. I would have been [joyously] surprised if he had been found guilty. There was that one glimmer of hope that my Inner American clung to — the hope that America would live up to its promise of “liberty and justice for all." My Better Mind, upon hearing the verdict, promptly pointed her finger and let out a huge, “I told you so.” And while my inner American cried for a dream deferred, my Better Mind held her tightly and whispered, “When racism is built into a law, it's hard to find justice in the courts.”
It is with that knowledge, and that revelation, that I am sitting at my computer now. I notice on my news feed that there are still blacked-out profile pictures, people are still wearing hoodies. I stand by my statement: "Blacked out profiles do not change government laws. Voices do." My question is: Now that the verdict is in and Zimmerman is free, and now that your outrage can be justified, how will you direct your actions?
Following in the steps of the late Ray Charles, Stevie Wonder has vowed not to play in Florida as long as the “Stand Your Ground” law is in effect.
No, we can’t all be Stevie Wonder. For some, social media may be the best way to get the message out. All I ask is that you post with a purpose. Genie Lauren is a woman who used Twitter to shut down Juror B37’s book deal. She tweeted her outrage, asked for supporters, tweeted not only the publisher, but also Martin’s parents. She created a campaign on change.org that reached 1,000 signatures with a simple statement:
Sharlene Martin, Manager
Drop Juror B37 from Martin Literary Management
Lauren was able to protect Trayvon’s legacy and ensure that his murder isn’t exploited by someone looking to make a couple bucks.
It’s initiatives like this that show social media’s power and effectiveness. But in order to make a stand like that, you have to stay informed and you have to do research. It takes work to cause change. It takes purpose. Therefore, yes, hashtags, posts, profile pictures and any other social media tool spread awareness. But if you are trying to cause real change, it takes more time and dedication than that.
Extra note: This commentary had already been written, when I saw perhaps the most ignorant trend sweeping social media (mostly by white teens). Apparently some people think it’s cool to post a picture of themselves on the ground, presumably as Trayvon did when he died with an Arizona Ice Tea and Skittles. It’s called Trayvoning, and it’s disgusting. Stop.
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